Me and the darlings went for lunch at my friends house today. On the way there we drove past a cemetery and Oliver asked 'What's that mummy?' I think it must be the first time he's noticed a cemetery, although we drive past a different one all the time, but it's behind a very high wall so he's never really seen that one either.
Anyway, I was a bit stumped as to what to say! I don't really like talking about death with him as he's only 3 years old and being the type of mum I am, I want to protect him from all the sad things that happen in life. I wasn't sure he would understand it either and if he did, it might scare him as he can be a bit sensitive. On the other hand I'm a firm believer in answering his questions (within reason!), not ignoring or fobbing him off and I try to explain things in a way he can understand. So I said to him:
'It's a cemetery'
'What's a cemetery mummy?'
'It's a sad place'
'Why is it sad?'
'People go there when they die and when people die their family is sad that they won't see them'
End of conversation!
Maybe I said the wrong thing? Maybe I said enough for now? I feel ok about what I said and Oliver was cool with it all. I'm sure there'll be many more conversations like this in the future!